Chemistry (relationship)

In the context of relationships, chemistry is a simple 'emotion' that two people get when they share a special connection. It is the impulse making one think 'I need to see this person again' - that feeling of 'we click'. It is very early in one's relationship that they can intuitively work out whether they have positive or negative chemistry.Romantic chemistry can be one of the most dangerous and self destructive emotions if left unchecked. Some people will enter relationships with incompatible mates blinded by chemistry. Chemistry often seems to have the power to blind us. Chemistry is the reason the saying, 'Love is blind,' exists. Chemistry can make otherwise rational people ignore serious problems and issues in an individual and relationship. Chemistry often blinds people to warning signs that a person or relationship is not healthy or the right one for them. In the context of relationships, chemistry is a simple 'emotion' that two people get when they share a special connection. It is the impulse making one think 'I need to see this person again' - that feeling of 'we click'. It is very early in one's relationship that they can intuitively work out whether they have positive or negative chemistry. While the actual definition of chemistry, its components, and its manifestations are fairly vague, this is a well documented concept. Some people describe chemistry in metaphorical terms, such as 'like peanut butter and jelly', or 'like a performance'. It can be described in the terms of mutual feelings - 'a connection, a bond or common feeling between two people', or as a chemical process - ' stimulates love or sexual attraction...brain chemicals are definitely involved'. While chemistry has been described as 'that romantic spark between ', the term 'spark' in the context of relationships is as vague as 'chemistry', and therefore is not particularly useful in a definition. It has also been described as 'intangible, unspoken energetic'. Chemistry is an unconscious decision, informed by a complex blend of criteria. Some of the core components of chemistry are: 'non-judgment, similarity, mystery, attraction, mutual trust, and effortless communication' Chemistry can be described as the combination of 'love, lust, infatuation, and a desire to be involved intimately with someone'. Research by Kelly Campbell, Ph.D., suggests that 'not everyone experiences chemistry'. She decided that 'chemistry occurred most often between people who are down-to-earth and sincere'. This is because 'if a person is comfortable with themselves, they are better able to express their true self to the world, which makes it easier to get to know them...even if perspectives on important matters differed.' Sharing similarities is also deemed essential to chemistry as 'feeling understood is essential to forming relational bonds.' In general terms, there are 3 main types of chemistry, which are defined in terms of the nature of the rapport between the respective people: The various manifestations of chemistry are: sexual chemistry, romantic chemistry, emotional chemistry, activity chemistry, team performance chemistry, creative chemistry, intellectual chemistry, and empowerment chemistry'. There are various psychological, physical and emotional symptoms of having good chemistry with another person. It has been described as a 'combination of basic psychological arousal combined with a feeling of pleasure'. The nervous system gets aroused, causing one to get adrenaline in the form of 'rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, and sensations of excitement that are often similar to sensations associated with danger'. Other physical symptoms include 'blood pressure go up a little, the skin...flush, the face and ears...turn red and... feeling of weakness in the knees'. One can feel a sense of obsession over the other person, longing for 'the day to that person'. One can also uncontrollably smile whenever thinking about the other person. There is some debate over whether one can artificially create chemistry if they are 'not initially feeling it'. While some people hold that it is something that you 'can't learn and can't teach... either have...or you don't', others hold that chemistry is a process rather than a moment, 'build up and adds up and eventually you get this kind of chemical bonding'. Some people, while believing it is possible to artificially create chemistry, think that it is better to let chemistry hit them spontaneously. In Western Society, chemistry is generally considered the 'igniter catalyst for the relationship', i.e., without this chemistry, there can be no relationship. Having chemistry 'can be the difference between a relationship being romantic or platonic'. Chemistry 'can cause people to act sexually impulsively or unwisely'. It can also be the difference between someone remaining faithful in their relationship, and seeking one night stands and affairs.