[Positive and negative--living with HIV as a couple].

: If one member of a couple has AIDS, both must be abreast of the latest in treatment, but not allow the disease to consume their relationship. By discussing feelings frankly, the virus can be confronted together. The author, a therapist, asserts that it is normal to fear life changes, but couples should not let them interfere with making decisions about the future. These fears must be expressed no matter how painful it is to contemplate death and the loss of a loved one. Life should proceed as positively as possible. Each partner needs to feel that it is normal to exhibit anger and frustration. Periodic denial can be a mental vacation from AIDS. Unfortunately, as the disease progresses, the partners are faced with different issues. The infected partner must put his affairs in order before he dies and the one who has lent love and support must envision surviving the loss.